by Alex Strike
How often do you say “No” in your life? You must confess that sometimes it is quite difficult for you to do, because you don’t want to offend anyone, you are afraid of being ignored, or you are just not brave enough to do that. The problem is that you can’t say “No” not only to your close people, relatives and friends, but to some people you don’t even like! You should definitely do something with that!
Believe us, you are not alone here. Many people meet the same problem, when saying “No” becomes a real challenge they all are afraid to accept. They worry about what other people will think of them, they don’t want to argue or make a conflict, and that is why it is always better for them to agree with others…
We can find 5 reasons at least why you should start saying “No” today. “No” to people and activities you don’t need and don’t like actually. Just remember and try to follow them, and you will see that they really work. Change your life for better, and become a more confident person today.
You should say “No” because:
…It’s impossible to be good for everyone!
It doesn’t matter what you do or say, there will always be people who don’t like this. It’s impossible to stay good for everyone, because we all are so different: they will judge you anyway, so… Do you really need to worry about anyone’s opinion? We mean those people who are not even close to you!
Just stop caring about what other people will say of you. It’s your life, your mistakes and decisions. Don’t let other people influence them.
…It’s only you who EXACTLY knows what you want!
As far as you understand, all your decisions will influence YOU first of all. So, why should you say “Yes” to anything you are not sure about? If you don’t like anything, just say “No” to it. If you feel that you don’t need anything, just say “No” to it. If you have some doubts, just say “No” and don’t do anything you don’t want actually.
There is no need to think of other people, when your life, future, mood, and health depend on your decision ONLY.
…You owe nothing to nobody!
We don’t want to disappoint you, if you were told the opposite thing, but it’s true. You are NOT obligated to do anything, and there are NO people to be obligated to do something, because each person lives his own life, and it’s he who decides what to do and whom to care about.
Yes, you probably have some obligations towards your parents, your life partner, or your boss who pays you money… But it doesn’t mean that you should say “Yes” every time when they decide to ask you something you don’t agree with, or you have no time to do at the very moment they say it.
No one will die, if you say “No” and explain why you can’t do what they want. People who value you will definitely understand your right to have your personal time, your point of view, and your own life!
…It’s only you who will suffer from your decisions!
There is no need to think of your friends when they invite you to join a party at 2am, because it will be only YOU who will suffer from a headache the next morning, when it’s time to go to work. And there is no need to be with a person whom you don’t love just because you don’t want to offend or make him (her) sad. It’s time to think of yourself.
Remember, that you are the first and only person who will suffer from your “Yes” every time you say it when you don’t want to do that actually.
…Your life doesn’t stop!
It’s you who chooses what life he want to live: it doesn’t matter whether you said “Yes” or “No”, your life will not stop at that very moment. So, it’s up to you what to choose: to try doing something what you don’t want actually, being in hurry all the time because you said “Yes” to everyone and promised to help them all, or… to relax and feel yourself comfortable just because you said “No” to all those things that did not actually matter.
It’s time to make a choice, friend. It’s your life, and only you choose the way to live.
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